With the rise of right-wing politics around the globe, many minorities are experiencing higher levels of discrimination-based stress. Of course, this isn’t new, but it is difficult to balance the desire to remain informed, with how much anxiety you can experience just from reading the news.
I’m a therapist who often works with clients experiencing overwhelm. Here are my top tips for keeping your queer joy alive, combatting despair, and staying in the good fight.
Draw strength from the queer legacy
Remember, you are part of a community with a long and glorious history of resilience. The courage that it takes to be authentically you is exactly what those in power find so intimidating. Read up on queer history, and walk into a room like your rainbow ancestors held the door open for you.
Media in moderation
Notice your body. When you’re feeling choked up, agitated, heavy or stuck, put the social media down, move your body, and breathe fresh air. Nobody is designed to process this degree of vicarious trauma 24/7. It’s fine to consume as little media as you need to, to stay sane and healthy.
Vent safely
Treasure those relationships where it feels safe to share feelings about what’s happening. Use good communication protocols to check in with others before and after getting things off your chest, being aware that ideally these conversations should relieve, not increase, the pressure on everyone. Therapy, journaling, exercise, and music may all help.
Self-care, self-expression
Your anxiety and rage about current events is valid, and a reminder of your humanity and compassion. But it’s not emotionally sustainable to be blended with those feelings all the time. Take a breather. What small things would bring you joy this week? Find time to nurture yourself and fill your cup. Wear something colourful, express yourself creatively, connect with pets or nature, and give yourself every chance of a good night’s sleep.
Build community
Nobody is meant to get through hard times alone, or do everything alone. Putting energy into your community and friendships will help you feel empowered, and build a support network that can lift each other up during tough times. Work on what you love and are called to do, no matter how small, and trust that you’re doing your part. We may be witnessing the time in history that comes right before the systemic change we need.
If you’re an ally…
We need you more than ever! Please validate, listen to, and provide extra dollops of joy to any queer folk in your life. Raise your voice against homophobia and transphobia and make the social and professional spaces you move in safer for everyone.
